How to be more resilient and bounce back from bullying

This week, we’re headed to the studio on Sunday to speak with the wonderful Viki Dean.

Viki is a mum to two growing boys, Alfie and Charlie. Balancing a career in Risk, traveling, and keeping fit, Viki is passionate about self-development and being a great role model for her boys, often working through challenges together.

One of the things Viki is passionate about is turning challenges into a positive learning experience. In episode 138, we’ll be chatting about how to be resilient and bounce back from bullying.

I’m really looking forward to this conversation. I’m a pretty calm guy by nature, but I lose my cool quickly when I see someone being bullied. I better stop there, I can already feel my blood boiling just thinking about bullying!

To sustain you until Monday…

Here are 5 things we thought you might like:

  1. The interoceptive turn
  2. If machines want to make art, will humans understand it?
  3. The Deliciousness of Dealing with a Negative Person
  4. Three ways your environment affects your intelligence
  5. Forgiveness: An Important Aspect of Flourishing

Have a blessed day!

And may all of your conversations enlighten your soul,

My Time On the Camino de Santiago

Both Sarah and I have had the great fortune to experience the magic of The Camino. I thought as a supplement to Episode 132, I share with you an extract from my journal, written just before I set off on the road.

The Road to Santiago is a very spiritual path. It was originally a Catholic pilgrimage for sinners who were trying to work off any time they might have to spend in Purgatory before they could get to heaven. It’s a 500-mile trail that runs across northern Spain from Roncesvalles to Santiago de Compostela.

I first came across the Road to Santiago through reading Robert Twigger’s book On Being a Man in the Lousy Modern World. In it he talked a great deal about the death of living a life of action versus living a life of unisex blandness where style is more important than substance and how we look is more important than what we do.

I later came across the Road to Santiago through Paulo Coelho’s book, The Pilgrimage, which is his account of the Great Walk. He walked the Road to find something he had lost. After reading Coelho’s book, I decided I wanted to walk the Road to see what I could find. At the time, I was going through a serious low point in my life. I was on the verge of falling off the edge into oblivion with no hope of return.

I went to walk the Road to Santiago to find out what was missing in my life. On the surface, I didn’t seem to lack anything. I had my wife and kids, a house, a cool job, and we were making enough money to support a comfortable lifestyle. Yet something inside was missing, but I couldn’t for the life of me figure out what it was.

I hoped I could find this missing link on the Road to Santiago. Of course, it’s kind of hard to find something if you don’t know what you’re looking for in the first place.

Photo Credit: Fellow pilgrim, Christine Eriksen

Every epic journey must have a goal the explorer is seeking. Since I did not know what I was looking for, I set myself some sub-goals to give the journey some meaning. So, on the Road to Santiago, I set out to do something I had never done before which was to walk 500 miles as a part of a single venture. I also wanted to meet other pilgrims and find out what they were seeking on the Road.

A month before I set out to walk the Road, I told a good friend of mine that I didn’t know what I would find on the Road to Santiago, and he said,

“I suspect that on the Road to Santiago, you will find Santiago. It’s what you’ll bring back that intrigues me.”

Indeed when I relaxed into the profoundness of his words, the Road suddenly took on a new meaning for me. Instead of walking the Road as a frustrated man who didn’t know what he was looking for, I would walk the Road as an explorer open to whatever I might find.

I could probably fill another book with the full tale of my adventure, but for brevity’s sake, I’ll tell you what I bought back in the form of an epiphany I had along the Road:

“Open your eyes to the joy and wonder that is around you and enjoy the simple things in life.”

We can make life more complicated than it needs to be. And I’ll confess now, I have done my fair share of complicating life, making it into a great big tangled melodrama. When, in fact, I can find all the world’s peace in my back garden. It is right there, right now, hidden in the song of the birds, the smell of the flowers, and the gentle caress of the morning breeze.

Photo Credit: Fellow pilgrim, Christine Eriksen

I think I broke my brain

I have a renewed interest in nootropics, the so-called smart drugs for cognitive enhancement. I spoke to my good friend JJ who is kind of a geek about these things. listen

Episode 113 Pre-Show Conversation

Hey Good people!

So today was the first time we’ve ever done a LIVE audio pre-show! And using Periscope no less, which is another first for us. Our intention is to do more live audio streams so we can get you guys involved in the conversation. watch

After an intense dream, I came to this conclusion

If these were your final hours, could you look back on your life and say it was a life well lived?

Appreciative Inquiry – a quick look

Not only have we brought the Havana Cafe Sessions podcast out of hiatus, but we also have a bonus podcast for you called the Havana Cafe Expresso Sessions, which is a series of mini-podcasts that you, the listener, can get directly involved in and be a part of the show via voice messaging. read more!

Smart Coffee Mug

I think I’ve been more nice than naughty this year and can, therefore, without hesitation, add this bad boy to my Chrismas list for Santa. We have smart everything else, why not a smart coffee mug that can keep your coffee at your preferred temperature for the duration of your drinking time. keep reading!

Are You Alone? (In The Universe)

Are you alone? To answer this question we have to take a look what “you” are first. What are you made of and where you stand in this universe. Are you your body? Your atoms? And how are your parts connected to the big picture?


Vinay Gupta On Plausible Utopias

Funny, dark, mindblowing and filled with big, credible ideas, Vinay introduced the idea of Plausible Utopias – possible futures that are both optimistic and radically different. A must watch.


Do you want to live forever?

“I do not believe in immortality of the individual, and I consider ethics to be an exclusively human concern with no superhuman authority behind it. – Albert Einstein”

I’m not sure I would want to live forever, certainly not if I had to endure the human condition as it is now with our relative morality that rewards those with the most power. keep reading!

So much of our time

I’m of an age to remember when time was not consumed by tiny screens.  But the world has turned and the tiny screen is everything – phone, bank, TV, radio, camera, alarm clock, shop, book, game, calendar, friend, brain. keep reading!

20 Enlightening Quotes From a Zen Master

Ever heard of Kodo Sawaki? We hadn’t until we stumbled upon this article in

Basically, Kodo Sawaki is considered to be one of the most significant Zen masters of his time for bringing Zen practice into the lives of laypeople and popularizing the ancient tradition of sewing the kesa. keep reading!

Our Favourite Place

Sarah and Clay outside the Havana Cafe just after a great session.