On this episode, Jeremy Sadler joins me to talk about positive affirmations and why they don’t work. Of course, you know they do work, but Jeremy lays out where we go wrong in making affirmations causing them not to work.
Excited to have as my guest host, Victoria James, founder of Mindflowers, in the studio with us to talk about self-importance and how mastering it will boost your authentic happiness by a factor of 10.
This week, Sarah returns back to the studio, and with her, she brought an interesting topic.
Do you ever get the feeling that something is not quite right with the world? This feeling sometimes manifests itself in the form of dissatisfaction, anxiety, or existential dread. But is this dissatisfaction inherent? Well, that’s exactly what Sarah and I dive into for episode #139.
In our open-ended casual style, we examine the topic through a variety of lenses from Samsara (“wandering through, flowing on”, in the sense of “aimless and directionless wandering”), to Stoicism, The Matrix, and our own personal life experiences.
In this episode, We’re talking about resilience and how to bounce back from bullying.
Viki has first-hand experience with bullying both as a kid and as an adult, and now as a parent whose child has had to deal with bullying. She drops some useful tips covering the problem from multiple levels.
This week, we’re headed to the studio on Sunday to speak with the wonderful Viki Dean.
Viki is a mum to two growing boys, Alfie and Charlie. Balancing a career in Risk, traveling, and keeping fit, Viki is passionate about self-development and being a great role model for her boys, often working through challenges together.
One of the things Viki is passionate about is turning challenges into a positive learning experience. In episode 138, we’ll be chatting about how to be resilient and bounce back from bullying.
I’m really looking forward to this conversation. I’m a pretty calm guy by nature, but I lose my cool quickly when I see someone being bullied. I better stop there, I can already feel my blood boiling just thinking about bullying!
To sustain you until Monday…
Here are 5 things we thought you might like:
- The interoceptive turn
- If machines want to make art, will humans understand it?
- The Deliciousness of Dealing with a Negative Person
- Three ways your environment affects your intelligence
- Forgiveness: An Important Aspect of Flourishing
Have a blessed day!
And may all of your conversations enlighten your soul,
Both Sarah and I have had the great fortune to experience the magic of The Camino. I thought as a supplement to Episode 132, I share with you an extract from my journal, written just before I set off on the road.
The Road to Santiago is a very spiritual path. It was originally a Catholic pilgrimage for sinners who were trying to work off any time they might have to spend in Purgatory before they could get to heaven. It’s a 500-mile trail that runs across northern Spain from Roncesvalles to Santiago de Compostela.
I first came across the Road to Santiago through reading Robert Twigger’s book On Being a Man in the Lousy Modern World. In it he talked a great deal about the death of living a life of action versus living a life of unisex blandness where style is more important than substance and how we look is more important than what we do.
I later came across the Road to Santiago through Paulo Coelho’s book, The Pilgrimage, which is his account of the Great Walk. He walked the Road to find something he had lost. After reading Coelho’s book, I decided I wanted to walk the Road to see what I could find. At the time, I was going through a serious low point in my life. I was on the verge of falling off the edge into oblivion with no hope of return.
I went to walk the Road to Santiago to find out what was missing in my life. On the surface, I didn’t seem to lack anything. I had my wife and kids, a house, a cool job, and we were making enough money to support a comfortable lifestyle. Yet something inside was missing, but I couldn’t for the life of me figure out what it was.
I hoped I could find this missing link on the Road to Santiago. Of course, it’s kind of hard to find something if you don’t know what you’re looking for in the first place.
Photo Credit: Fellow pilgrim, Christine Eriksen
Every epic journey must have a goal the explorer is seeking. Since I did not know what I was looking for, I set myself some sub-goals to give the journey some meaning. So, on the Road to Santiago, I set out to do something I had never done before which was to walk 500 miles as a part of a single venture. I also wanted to meet other pilgrims and find out what they were seeking on the Road.
A month before I set out to walk the Road, I told a good friend of mine that I didn’t know what I would find on the Road to Santiago, and he said,
“I suspect that on the Road to Santiago, you will find Santiago. It’s what you’ll bring back that intrigues me.”
Indeed when I relaxed into the profoundness of his words, the Road suddenly took on a new meaning for me. Instead of walking the Road as a frustrated man who didn’t know what he was looking for, I would walk the Road as an explorer open to whatever I might find.
I could probably fill another book with the full tale of my adventure, but for brevity’s sake, I’ll tell you what I bought back in the form of an epiphany I had along the Road:
“Open your eyes to the joy and wonder that is around you and enjoy the simple things in life.”
We can make life more complicated than it needs to be. And I’ll confess now, I have done my fair share of complicating life, making it into a great big tangled melodrama. When, in fact, I can find all the world’s peace in my back garden. It is right there, right now, hidden in the song of the birds, the smell of the flowers, and the gentle caress of the morning breeze.
Photo Credit: Fellow pilgrim, Christine Eriksen
As you gear up for Valentine’s Day this week, consider this: romantic love is a modern construct that emerged in tandem with the novel. The idea of romantic love, as we know it today, came on the scene in tandem with In Madame Bovary (1856).
That’s one type of love. As it turns out, love has many levels. In this week’s episode, we explore the 7 types of love. Read More